We live in a day and time that people are quick to renege on their promises. Even in the Christian community, we see people fail to honor their word. As a result, these broken promises have often lead to broken and fragmented relationships. So today, I want to share three things you can do to help keep your word.
Think it over before you commit! One of the best ways to prevent breaking a promise is to refuse to overcommit in the first place. Before you take on another obligation ask yourself, ‘Do I have the time, energy, passion and other resources I will need to take on this responsibility?’ I think the Bible says it best in Ecclesiastes 5:5, “It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it.” Always remember, making a promise is easy, keeping it is the challenge.
If you don’t want to commit, say so! It’s unwise to be a chronic people pleaser. I encourage you to learn the power of saying no to things that you feel uncomfortable obligating yourself to perform. Numbers 30:2 states, “When a man makes a vow to the LORD or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.” In other words, you are under no obligation to commit yourself to a person or task. It’s all voluntary. But once you decide to make a commitment, God expects you to follow through.
Keep your commitments, even when they are inconvenient. One of my favorite scriptures on this subject is found in Psalm 15:1, 4, “Lord, who may dwell in your sanctuary? Who may live on your holy hill? (4) who despises a vile man but honors those who fear the LORD, who keeps his oath even when it hurts.” God is looking for men and women to keep their promises, even when it’s cumbersome to do so. He is looking for men and women who will fulfill their obligations without hesitation or a bad attitude. We have to keep our promises!
Yes, broken promises lead to broken relationships. Therefore, we have to be ever so careful to think it over before we commit. If we don’t want to commit, we need to say so. And finally, we should keep our commitments, even when it’s inconvenient. God expects us to always keep our word. I leave you with Deuteronomy 23:23 which states, “Whatever your lips utter you must be sure to do, because you make your vow freely to the Lord your God with your own mouth.” Blessings!!!
Pastor Cornell Maltbia is senior pastor at True Holiness Saints Center in Conway. He serves on various nonprofit boards throughout his tenure of community service. For more information or to contact Maltbia, log onto trueholiness.net.